tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post1889467979685059940..comments2024-03-28T05:34:42.670-05:00Comments on MAKE MINE MYSTERY: How Not To Promote OneselfMorgan Mandelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10118929301591850918noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-79339266769389148562009-01-19T16:15:00.000-06:002009-01-19T16:15:00.000-06:00Suko, I so agree!Suko, I so agree!Dana Fredstihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12802936840624512415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-57887624381977987222009-01-18T23:15:00.000-06:002009-01-18T23:15:00.000-06:00Terrific post and comments so far!A really good wr...Terrific post and comments so far!<BR/><BR/>A really good writer HAS to be interested in others--it's a job requirement. Excessive self-promotion is definitely a "turn-off".Sukohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11893742747135555499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-74303040091544979372009-01-18T22:17:00.000-06:002009-01-18T22:17:00.000-06:00What boggles my mind is that these panel hogs (and...What boggles my mind is that these panel hogs (and snobby authors)don't get what sort of ill-will they generate in a fairly tight-knit community where support, at least to me, is so important.Dana Fredstihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12802936840624512415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-13501346485529369112009-01-18T21:39:00.000-06:002009-01-18T21:39:00.000-06:00I despise panel hogs, and I've met plenty. Once th...I despise panel hogs, and I've met plenty. Once they get started, no one can get another word in. What is particularly aggravating is when they get the book sales because the other speakers didn't get a chance to speak their pieces. <BR/><BR/>Morgan Mandel<BR/>http://morganmandel.blogspot.comMorgan Mandelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10118929301591850918noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-3491534788373167702009-01-18T14:15:00.000-06:002009-01-18T14:15:00.000-06:00Heh. Mark, I confess I'm such a reading hog, I'd ...Heh. Mark, I confess I'm such a reading hog, I'd probably take their books...but I'm also assuming they approached you with an ulterior motive?... <BR/><BR/>F.M., I've been there...and being from a small press, I don't think I'd buy any books from Ms. Large Press snob either. <BR/><BR/>Diane, I have...er...well, more than 10 and less than 12 cats. Of all colors. So if you WANT to bring your own cat fur, it'll blend right in! :-)<BR/><BR/>ANyway, I'm a friendly person and always assume others are the same...until they prove otherwise. THen they go on The List of Those I will not Read.Dana Fredstihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12802936840624512415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-46885235135953737362009-01-18T13:05:00.000-06:002009-01-18T13:05:00.000-06:00You have a valid complaint! Yes, I've attended/bee...You have a valid complaint! Yes, I've attended/been on panels where author monopolized the discussion with their work. Even just monopolizing it drives me nuts!<BR/><BR/>People need to remember the fundamental basic law of human nature - we are all most interested in ourselves! So when we talk to another person, they are not interested in US. Often, they could care less! Therefore, even when we are talking to other authors, we have to remember to ask about their work and not just blather on about our own. (And hope they know to return the courtesy.)<BR/><BR/>And don't you love the snobby authors!?!?!?!? Yes, I know several of those. I know ones who will be all buddy-buddy with you at a conference and then ignore your emails or social site comments. We are all just people!!<BR/><BR/>And I would have no problems with cat fur, Morgan! In fact, if you like, I can even bring my own...<BR/><BR/>L. Diane Wolfe<BR/>www.circleoffriendsbooks.blogspot.com<BR/>www.spunkonastick.net <BR/>www.thecircleoffriends.netL. Diane Wolfehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06425864276166334896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-85299647598063994522009-01-18T09:59:00.000-06:002009-01-18T09:59:00.000-06:00I agree with what you're saying. There are two aut...I agree with what you're saying. There are two authors whose books I'll never read because of their behavior. One was a moderator of a panel and cautioned us not to hog the panel--then after our introductions we never were given a chance to speak again--all she did was talk about herself and her books.<BR/><BR/>Another author has a select group of people she runs around with at one conference and I've seen her shoo other authors away if they ask to sit with the group. I've seen this gal over and over, been on panels with her (and yes, she's a panel hog too), and she has yet to do more than nod at me.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and there's on other who complained about the fact that the legitimate authors had stayed away from a mystery con because too many authors from small pressed had come. Don't think I'll buy any more of her books either.<BR/><BR/>Marilyn<BR/>http://fictionforyou.comMarilyn Meredith a.k.a. F. M. Meredithhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04179984154939161530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7041804343600978883.post-38252736296446938622009-01-18T08:41:00.000-06:002009-01-18T08:41:00.000-06:00I've been to several conventions where people have...I've been to several conventions where people have approached me in the hall and insisted I read their book and pushed the book onto me. That really turns me off.Mark Troyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10746027017657987261noreply@blogger.com